How to pursue your wife and miss the point

I love to pursue my wife in really BIG creative ways. In fact I make it a point to try to consistently out do myself when it comes to making her feel special.

But wait, before you praise me, allow me to make a disturbing confession about my heart.
Whenever I work hard or do something special for my wife, I start acting like Michael Scott from the office.
I want the city to throw me a parade while I walk around with my “worlds best husband” mug...

Of course, I’d never say any of this out loud [until now]. And I don’t actually own such a mug [even though I’ve considered it... J/K]. No, I just walk around my house with a swagger and I treat my wife like she should be so lucky that I just did ____ for her.

I feel slightly sick to my stomach just typing that.
I guess thats a reflection of how low of standard we’ve set for ourselves?
I mean, really? I want to be thanked for pursuing my wife?
I want to be ‘championed’ for making her feel special and for treasuring her?
What else am I supposed to do?

THATS MY ‘JOB’ FOR CRYING OUT LOUD!
THATS WHAT I VOWED TO DO ON MAY 31ST!!
TO LOVE AND HONOR!!!

I’m sorry I’m yelling.
Please believe me when I say I’m yelling mostly at myself.

I’m frustrated that I miss this. I think I get the ‘I need to pursue my wife’ thing. I just need to remember that I’m not doing her a ‘favor’ because thats the point.
Thats marriage. Pursuit. Love. Treasure my wife.
Like Christ pursued, loved and treasured us.

And if Jesus didn’t walk around with a swagger [though if anyone could have, it would have been him] then I for sure have nothing to brag about.
I’m indebted to grace.
So If anything I need to fall on my face daily in thankfulness that God was gracious enough to allow me to share in his story by giving me a great wife to pursue.

And God willing, I pray that from now on I humbly pursue my wife in a way that both her and my daughter would see big, creative, relentless pursuit as what marriage is supposed to be [in response to Gods love and pursuit of us] rather than something some great husbands do for some lucky wives.

Anyone out there feel me?